1 Samuel 18:1-5 :
When he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David,
and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. Saul took him that day, and would let him go no more home to his father’s house.
Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul.
Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was on him, and gave it to David, and his clothing, even including his sword,
his bow, and his sash. David went out wherever Saul sent him, and behaved himself wisely; and Saul set him over the men of war.
It was good in the sight of all the people, and also in the sight of Saul’s servants.
I think that this one of the most beautiful parts of the Bible. A very special kind of friendship
formed between David and Jonathan. By looking at their lives, we can see that these two were already very similar
in their attitude toward God and Israel. Both of them were true champions and both of them believed that God was the one behind their
victories. When Jonathan discovered David, the Bible says that his soul "was knit with the soul of David" and that he
"loved him as his own soul." This is a fairly obvious description of true love.
I intend to highlight that the Bible is not against love between two men or between two women. In fact, the Bible
encourages it. What the God is against is homosexual sex. That is a perversion of God's natural order. In sin, we can confuse sex
with love. Sex should always be together with love, but love is intended to go without sex in most cases, as we see here. Love
is something that God wants all Christians to have for each other. In fact Jesus tells us to do what Jonathan did here.
Mark 12:30-31 :
you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind, and with all your strength.’
This is the first commandment. The second is like this, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’
There is no other commandment greater than these.”
We know that what Jonathan and David had was true love because they treated each other as themselves. This is the kind
of relationship that makes life worth living and it is something that God wants for every single human on the planet. Since we
don't do what God wants most of the time, relationships like this are rare. Notice that David and Jonathan were already properly
aligned with God's will. That's how to start having good relationships with others. It starts with a good relationship with God.
Saul was popular, but he didn't have a relationship like this that we know of. Perhaps this was one of the reasons his spirit was
troubled. The problem wasn't that there weren't any friends available for Saul. I think that both Jonathan and David loved Saul,
but I don't think that Saul had learned to love them. All Saul managed to do was to control David and not allow him to leave.
I don't think that David had to be controlled though. He loved God and He loved the one that God put in charge.